FACE-TO-FACE COUNSELLING

WHAT IS COUNSELING?

  • Counseling is an interpersonal process and relationship which begins with the counselor helping a client to explore the way he/she thinks, how he/she feel and what he/she do, for the purpose of enhancing his/her life.

 

WHAT COUNSELING IS NOT

  1. Providing information
  2. Social conversation
  3. Ordinary encounter
  4. Teaching or preaching
  5. Logical analysis
  6. Giving advice, answer or suggestion
  7. Just solving problems only
  8. Just encouraging and enlightening
  9. Threatening and inducing
  10. Criticizing and blaming

 

WRONG MOTIVES OF COUNSELING

  1. Curiosity
  2. Maintain unhealthy friendship with clients
  3. Need for power – to correct others
  4. Need for doing good – ‘You cannot do, let me do it for you’
  5. Savior mentality – ‘You are helpless, let me save you’

 

COUNSELOR IS NOT

  1. A Savior
  • In a desperate situation, a counselor may be a client’s pillar or most trusted friend, but a counselor will not play such a role all the time in the counseling process. A client needs to learn to deal with problem independently and shoulder greater responsibility
  • A counselor cannot take the place of a client. For e.g., a counselor cannot go dating or reconcile with family members on behalf of a client
  1. A Tyrant
  • Counselor will not force a client to decide
  • Counselor will not pressure a client to change his/her thinking and behavior
  • Counselor will not force a client to deal with issues he/she is not ready to face
  1. A Nanny
  • Counselor will not be soft all the time. A counselor can be firm
  • Counselor will not allow unhealthy emotional attachment from client
  • Counselor will not be present with client all the time. Client needs to learn to face the uncertainty of life independently
  1. A Super Computer
  • It is impossible for a counselor to give answers or solution formula to every problem since there are no standard answers to most problems in life
  1. A Repairer
  • Many people wait until the last minute before seeking counseling thinking that a counselor can just fix their problems. Sometimes problems can be so severe even the counselor cannot do anything.

 

COUNSELOR IS

  1. A Supporter
    Counselor will try to understand, accept and support client’s feeling without judging
  1. A Consultant
    Counselor knows his/her limitation. A counselor will not speak or act beyond his/her capacity
  1. An Observer
    In order to understand and help effectively, a counselor will observe the client intensely to determine his/her physical, emotional and mental state.

 

GOALS OF COUNSELING

  1. Self understanding
  2. Learn to share self
  3. Learn new ways of thinking
  4. Learn to change behavior
  5. Self actualization
  6. Support one another

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